Found this draft and looking back our curent helper is such a wonderful find!!
What kind of parent are you?
The kind who would give in to your kid's whims and fancies? Or the type who controls each and every little thing they get their hands on? Or the type who gives them a free hand but sets parameters in which you would like them to grow?
Would want to think of myself as the 3rd type, but some how i have feeling my compulsive control temperament may take the reign. Just looking at the way my mum manages the maid today makes me think if i am like her sometimes.. . expecting her to do everything to the T following the operations procedures without a glitch. Honestly I think it boils down to insecurity. I feel insecure about leaving my baby with the maid. I hate it when she does things to her standard, cutting corners, skiving when we are not looking and coming up with excuses to cover her ass. Just today I scolded her for not responding when I talk to her. How would I know if she understands what was conveyed when she does not acknowledge with a simple ok or yes. Tried explaining to her why Philipino maids ought to get higher pay ... at the very least they respond with a 'yes mum'. She'll only respond with a 'ya'when she is either in a good mood or when she is truly listening. If had to work past her bedtime she'll not acknowledge you and proceed to do things in a rushed manner, wearing a black face. By the way in case if you are wondering 'So what time does she sleeps?'. I must say she has at least 10 hours of sleep each day. At my mom's, she tend to sleep at 9ish and at my place she could go to bed at as early as 8ish pm! I've tried explaining about the concept of customer care and the need to service with a smile. She meerly giggles with some sort of understanding and forgets about it the very next day. No wonder she tells me she gets scolded by her supervisor quite often when she was working in a departmental store back in Malang!
Hubby just cannot stand how she packs food slowly and do things with no sense of urgency! He simply took over the tasks and this made things worse. She doesn't know her place anymore! My mum and I often end up playing the bad guy as we are the key personnels ordering her around! I got to keep reinforcing the idea that she is the one earning a living not us. Appraising her each month before giving her her salary seems to work for a while but when new issues comes up the old ones gets forgotten and production became inconsistent again. My dad irritates the hell out of me when he keep asking her to take breaks and rest. How can I manage her when there are so many Indian Chiefs in the hourse! And she is smart enough to know who to go to when she had issues. I think I ought to really scold her to reinforce my training. Bad habits are indeed easy to pick up but difficult to correct. Till then it'll be too late.
Am feeling kinda frustrated now as I meant to dedicate this page to parenting, but ended up writing all about maid management!
